10th
Ewww….
So, I’ve been friends with this one professor of mine. We’ve been exchaging emails having a friendly dialogue about a variety of subjects including family, regional differences, personalities (its a class about personalities). Anyway, I looked up to him as a kind of mentor because he was the one of a handful of my professors who ever bothered to learn my name. And he is certainly the only one who bothered to talk to me. So, I thought a lot of him.
Well today I get a really inappropriate email. Asking about meeting my parents. Talking to me about my appearance. Asking me for pictures of my best friend’s visit to town. I really don’t know what to say to him. It was all said in a way that could be perceived as either creepy or nonchalant. I don’t know, I don’t want to take chances. I’m probably not going to introduce him to my parents. And I’m not going to discuss my appearance. And I’m certainly not going to send him any pictures of me and my best friend.
I feel dirty, like I somehow asked for this by my friendliness. What if I didn’t really deserve that good grade? That is a terrible thought. I just feel wrong. Creeped out. Icky.
Part of my personality profile (I’m an ISFJ, I learned this stuff in class) is that when I am wronged, or I feel like someone overstepped their boundaries I take a looooooong time to forgive someone.
What do I do here? Move on and pretend it never happened? (This is the popular consensus.) Address it directly and tell him I was made to feel uncomfortable by his message? Whatever I do I think its probably a good idea to stop emailing.
My best friend says that this is a pretty common occurence. I kind of hope so because it would make me feel less icky, but at the same time I don’t want other girls to feel like this.
Am I overreacting? Whatever… I feel the way I feel.
